I want to talk about beauty today because it’s a topic that I really love and that I find both controversial and very inspiring. In today’s post, I’m sharing a revamped version of an article that I had previously published with Over the Moon Magazine (which is no longer running).
The kind of beauty I’m talking about does include inner and energetic beauty but it also encompasses physical and outer beauty. We live in a physical world, and I don’t believe in denying physical beauty and solely focusing on the internal. What I do believe however is that appreciating external beauty is a path to accessing our internal beauty, and that beauty is available to everyone.
We are living in intense, wonderful, and overwhelming times right now, and we are at a very interesting place in the history of beauty. Look at celebrity culture: Kim K’s nude selfies are bashed for being narcissistic and praised for being empowering. Girls are having surgery to get the elusive “thigh gap,” and Chrissy Teigen is posting photos celebrating her stretch marks.
Never before have there been so many different ways to enhance and alter our appearance. We have procedures, treatments, contouring, and even photo filters. At the same time we have a movement aimed at eschewing makeup in favour of a more natural look, the Free the Nipple campaign, and powerful conversations around embracing our own individual beauty. The pressure to look “perfect” is slowing getting balanced out by a more open view of what it means to be beautiful.
Clearly, beauty means something to us. This is because physical beauty is a manifestation of the deeper beauty (i.e. love) of the Universe. In truth, we live in a beautiful and abundant Universe that is based on love. In practice, we often do not see this beauty because we live in fear, which has us focusing on the negative fear-based aspects of our world. By choosing to see and celebrate beauty, we are choosing to see the Universe as it really is.
I think the trouble we have is that we have come to view beauty in very specific terms (thin, big eyes, symmetrical face, tan skin, etc.), so we think that beauty is limited and conditional. When we let go of these conditions and see the true beauty that lies in all of our faces, bodies, and spirits, we see the truth.
I see beauty as a power that can be viewed either negatively or positively. Here are some examples of how that looks.
The Dark Side of Beauty:
- Judging and hating our bodies and appearances
- Judging others’ bodies and appearances
- Deciding that a beautiful woman or man is probably bitchy/cocky, shallow, or self involved
- Using makeup to hide or mask your perceived imperfections
The Light Side of Beauty:
- Loving and honouring our bodies and appearances
- Respecting and appreciating others’ bodies and appearances
- Complimenting, praising, and supporting other women and men
- Using makeup to have fun and play with your beauty
How do you feel when you tell yourself that you are ugly, overweight, or somehow physically unworthy? You feel awful, and the reason you feel awful is because you are denying the true beauty that you are.
How do you feel when you appreciate and tell yourself that you are gorgeous? You feel empowered, worthy, and beautiful. Do you see how our views on physical beauty can be a gateway into our true power? This isn’t an ego thing; it’s about seeing ourselves as well really are.
The Dark Side of Beauty is fear, and the Light Side of Beauty is love. Our views on physical appearance are just another way to access our higher selves because it gives us the opportunity to choose love over fear.
Tell yourself you’re gorgeous and beautiful and hot. Tell yourself this because it’s true and because the more you say it, the more you’ll feel it, and it won’t be conditional on being your ideal weight or having a face full of makeup (though both are great!). It will be based on a true knowing of your worth and your power.
Tell others that they are beautiful and admire the hair/face/body of people you see. When you can see the beauty in others, it’s a reflection of the beauty you see in yourself. When we feel inadequate, it’s scary to see what we desire in others. When we can love and appreciate beauty in others, we learn to see it in ourselves.
In beauty, as in everything: more love, less hate. More embracing, less judging. Honour and celebrate the beauty in you and around you and revel in the power of the Light Side of Beauty.