I have a bunch of posts I want to write and for various reasons I haven’t gotten around to writing them, but this post seemed like a good place to start.
I’ve talked about it a few times here before, but since starting my blog over three years ago (!!) I’ve gone back and forth on whether I should be writing at all. There is just so much information out there, and SO many wellness articles that I have had to ask myself so many times- is it really of benefit to anyone for me to just be adding to this information overload?
I still don’t have a clear answer on how I feel about this, but in the last year or so I have consciously chosen to make changes to what I write about. I don’t want to tell anyone what to do or what to practice, what book they need to read, or why they should adopt my morning routine. I don’t believe in telling anyone how to live their life and I think the less time we spend basing our decisions on the opinions of others, the more we’ll spend listening to ourselves and discovering our own truths.
I love that quote that says “You are the one you’ve been waiting for.” It’s so good. You’re not waiting for the next book or the next lecture or the next psychic reading. I used to hold my breath for all of these things, sure that I’d find everything I was looking for in someone else’s words. It never happened, and that was really scary at the time, but ultimately it is just so amazing to know that none of those other things gave me what I was looking for because only I can provide that for myself.
I spent so much time taking what other people recommend at face value without really stopping to see if it felt right for me or if it had a positive impact on my life. I spent hours pouring over spiritual and wellness blogs, and they left me feeling confused and overwhelmed more often than inspired. Sometimes, actually a lot of times to be fair, the content did leave me feeling truly inspired, but rather than checking to see if I actually wanted to be doing what the writer suggested, I just went ahead and did it, believing that if it helped that person, it would help me.
I read another quote the other day that I love. Sandy C. Newbigging says, “confusion comes from overthinking and overmanaging life.”
Reading so many different opinions and ideas can lead you so far away from yourself that you don’t even know what to think anymore. For so long I felt like my opinions weren’t my own- they were just a mishmash of everything I had read and heard.
So yeah that is my internal debate over writing. Do I contribute to something that is so oversaturated, or do I just go about my life and keep my opinions to myself?
The thing is, I do love writing-it feels so natural to me, and what I write about feels natural to write. I kind of can’t imagine not doing it, and I trust that if something feels right, it is right for me to be doing. Even in the blogging break I took between last November and this spring, I was still writing about all of this stuff, just not on my blog. I’ve also learned so much and been so inspired and encouraged by other people’s words and experiences that I know there is benefit to sharing your story.
For now, what I’ve decided is this: when I write, I’ll take responsibility as someone who is sharing ideas, and I’ll trust my readers to decide what’s right for them. I do my best not to write anything that would aim to push my views onto someone else, particularly someone who may be vulnerable, in a difficult place in their life, and is looking for guidance. I aim to share my story without trying to make my path be anyone else’s path.
As a reader of other people’s content, I’m learning to stop reading something when it’s not feeling right or feels too pushy, and to stop reading altogether when my own voice starts to get overshadowed by the voices of others. I’ve learned so much from other people, but things got so much clearer for my when I shifted from trusting others with what’s right for me to trusting myself. And I give credit to anyone who may read my work and trust that they can do the same.
I think writing and reading are ways we can share and grow. I know they have tremendous value and can connect us and help us to learn more about ourselves and others. I’m also very aware that there is a lot of content out there that is not really that valuable and contributes to our overwhelm. Navigating that is something I’ve thought about a lot, and I think I’m starting to find a better balance for myself.
This is a really rambling post, and I hope it wasn’t too convoluted. I don’t have fully formed conclusions on the subject, so I find it difficult to write about it in a really concise way. Consider this post as a way for me to think out loud.
I’ll finish by suggesting that you read things that inspire you and put down anything that doesn’t (including my blog if that’s what’s right for you! I promise I won’t be offended :p ). Read to the extent that it benefits you but always remember that your truth and wisdom exit in YOU, not in anything or anyone else. Lastly, don’t let it be too complicated. We really don’t need millions of articles on what to eat, how to meditate, and which crystals to have on our altars. Getting in touch with yourself and your own voice will tell you so much more than any blog post or article ever can.
I’d love to hear from you if this is something that you can relate to or if you have anything you want to add! It’s a conversation I’m really interested in and would love to chat more about.